It’s late at night and you’ve been at it for hours. Your spouse starts yelling because the cellophane tape is breaking off of its roll and she/he can’t get the roll started again. Obscenities are being generated.
Do you reply with:
- “Why don’t you take a break? Better yet, let’s quit for the day.”
- “It doesn’t do that for me. What are you doing wrong?”
The correct response is something along the lines of #1. It is not, I repeat not, #2.
Seek Nuance 
This is good info thanks. *Scribbles notes*
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